Nothing can blur the lines of love and romance like Valentine’s Day. But the euphoria of romantic love fades as quickly as the bouquet of flowers on your countertop. To find the kind of love that lasts, we need to look somewhere else.

Cue Jesus. And when you listen to what Jesus says about love, you start to get the feeling that Jesus thinks true love isn’t fair. It’s unjust, even. And involves more giving than getting.

Since this idea on love isn’t very popular, I decided to get together with Christians and non-Christians to hear their reactions to Jesus’ teaching that love isn’t fair.

What would you add to the conversation?

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hey everybody my name is crisp Avila and
welcome to what Jesus says about where
Jesus speaks for himself so you can
respond for yourself and don’t forget to
hit subscribe so you can stay up to date
on what Jesus says about topics
important to you now if you haven’t
already gotten your Valentine’s candy
and card good luck because when you go
to Walgreens you’re gonna be picking
some leftovers quick tip at this point
if you haven’t bought anything yet just
buy a blank card and write inside of
that every year I buy my wife some
Russell Stover chocolates because she
loves these and then she likes to sit
there and look at them and try to guess
what’s inside and it’s a good excuse if
you don’t like what you get it’s not
fair just go back and get another mine
until you like what you get I like this
one a lot of Korman when it comes to
chocolate you can go back and get
another piece if you didn’t like what
you got but that’s not the way love
works at least according to Jesus
obviously this isn’t a very popular
teaching so I wanted to have some
cameras rolling while Christians and
non-christians reacted to Jesus is
teaching that love isn’t fair
so you guys go ahead and check it out
I’m gonna have another piece of candy so
Jesus is teaching on love and his idea
of love I think we would all go okay
that’s good that Jesus is a loving guy
but then when we like start to actually
dig in and what he meant and his idea
and concept of what it was to love
people that liked it it challenges and
unsettles us and he says you’ve heard it
said I’ve heard eye and tooth for a
tooth but I tell you don’t resist an
evil person
if anyone slaps you on the right cheek
turn to them the other cheek also and if
anyone wants to sue you and take your
shirt
hand over your coat as well and if
anyone forces you to go one mile go with
them two miles you’ve heard it said love
your neighbor and hate your enemy but I
tell you love your enemies and pray for
those who will press you I mean if you
guys have ever been robbed after you
were robbed how would you have heard
these words from Jesus differently than
I am now I definitely would have
processed it differently but I probably
wouldn’t have heard that
words would be hard to take them words
and it feels inside like he’s saying be
a doorman just take anything and just be
a doorman
I feel like you’re like so angry that
it’s hard to even hear do what’s right
because you just see bread when someone
wrongs me my first reaction is oh it’s
on like let me put me think about how I
can get you back so how do you reconcile
that as a follower pieces that you don’t
do that well he forgives me anyway
I’m not attacked that very often you
know often I mean how do you you just
hope you don’t get tested in that area
not sure that any religion has really
done a great job at love your enemies it
depends I see Jesus talking about
genuine retaliation and not I mean
there’s infighting there’s like a level
of self-defense right I mean there’s a
level of just protecting yourself yeah I
mean you know I think there’s some
context they’re buying Jesus’s words
about striking someone on one cheek
there may be some level of
self-protection that might be
appropriate well then why didn’t he say
that it seems like he says love your
enemy and now you’re like justifying
well well hold on let’s define what
enemy unless define what love really
looks like I mean am I wrong all right
you just think no I think you’re right
but I think even as Kurt no one’s
perfect so of course we don’t do exactly
like like yeah we’re supposed to
probably do that but we don’t well I
think he’s just trying to teach peace
and that there’s a better way you know
violence can feed more violence but
someone’s eventually gonna have to stop
to make a change are you asking me like
I four and I like do I want them to I
mean I would want the person to be
caught or punished but I wouldn’t seek
out revenge but this is beyond just
justice justice would be an eye for an
eye
he’s saying the person who strikes to
give the cheek person who grabs you give
them something else no they take the
coat okay give me your shirt oh there
you go one month go – I don’t see
justice in it I actually see injustice
and that he’s asking me
to not only be taken from but then to
give it could just be that Jesus is
throwing down moral imperatives here
telling us what to do or not to do and
there’s no meaning to it
where it could be that there’s actually
something really meaningful behind it is
if we knew how you know powerful it
could be if we live that way as a
society if we know powerful it could be
for us personally in our own lives and
our own well-being to live that way I
think it would make us look at this
teaching differently it’s an interesting
conversation I think ultimately what
Jesus is saying is that in love you end
up giving a whole lot more than you end
up receiving at least that’s the way it
appears on the surface but I’d love to
hear your thoughts how do you respond to
what Jesus teaches how do you respond to
what you heard around that table go
ahead and leave your comments below also
while you’re doing that I’ve got a
playlist over here of some of the other
reaction videos go ahead and take a look
and we’ll see you soon
what do you call butterfingers is that
like it’s like a Butterfinger is that
like a nougat no it’s not nougat what is
that
toffee no what is that

Love does not judge. Except when it does.

It’s easy to say you never judge people but, when you think about it, you make judgment calls all the time. You judge whether to trust the car salesman. You judge whether to go on a date with someone. And when you love someone, you immediately begin making judgments about them.

Why?

Because you want what’s best for them. So if your child is destroying their hair or if your friend starts destroying their life, you’re going to try and help them. Because you love them. Which means you’ve judged their choices and decided to help.

That being said, judgment can also be a bad thing.

So what’s the difference? When should and when shouldn’t you judge someone? That’s where the words of Jesus can help you decide when it’s right and when it’s wrong to judge another person.

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No 30-minute sermons. No five-dollar words. No hard sell. We just let Jesus speak for Himself so you can respond for yourself.

WHY I DO THIS
What Jesus Says About is sponsored by THRED.org, an organization committed to open and honest conversations about life, faith, and Jesus. You should check them out on the interwebs at: https://www.thred.org

I’m a husband. I’m a father through adoption and foster care. I’m also a pastor of a church. My life mission is to “do whatever it takes so as many as possible can see Jesus”. This channel is one of the ways I live that out. <br> <h3>Auto Generated Captions</h3>

hey everybody my name is crisp Avila and
welcome to what Jesus says about where
Jesus speaks for himself so you can
respond for yourself and don’t forget to
hit subscribe so you can stay up to date
on what Jesus says about topics
important to you now the closer we get
to Valentine’s Day the more you’ll see
like candy everywhere and you’ll hear
conversations about love and that’s why
we have conversation or if you couldn’t
by these last year’s so I bought them
this year are good but I don’t know how
to actually start a conversation with
these like it just says peace like know
how you start a conversation with that
delicious though chalky anyway since
we’re all about conversation here at
what Jesus says about I figured okay
what are people talking about people are
talking about love so what does Jesus
say about love do you think this would
be pretty straightforward just accept
people and all that kind of stuff but
actually when you look at what Jesus
says about love it kind of feels
unloving because according to Jesus love
is judgmental so I figured let’s do
another reaction video and have the
cameras rolling while we have Christians
and non-christians react to Jesus
teaching that love is judgmental and as
you’ll see what Jesus says is a much
better conversation starter than these
conversation hearts take a look and out
one of Jesus’s idea of love involved
this this idea of judgment and so here’s
here’s the teaching and do not judge or
you too will be judged so why do you
look at the speck of sawdust in your
brother’s eye and pay no attention to
the plank in your own eye first take the
plank out of your own eye then you will
see clearly to remove the speck from
your brother’s hi do you guys think the
message here is it’s okay to judge or is
the message don’t judge that’s not how I
want to be I don’t want to be judgmental
and when I feel other people judging me
it doesn’t make me feel good so first I
have to start with myself that’s that’s
the message that I get it if you’re
really going to help somebody else and I
think he even says like you know you’re
gonna be judged by the same criteria
you’re judged on right so it’s like
you’re cool with being judged by your
own criteria
then I think yeah then you hold somebody
to that standard I think a lot of this
is people just have no emotional
intelligence or understand enough about
themselves so if you don’t understand
you it’s very easy to have somebody else
on the outside telling you what’s wrong
with you and can a Christian make a
judgment call on somebody who doesn’t
follow Jesus I don’t think that they can
they’re not walking the same path that
the Christian is I don’t think so no
just based on strictly on what Jesus
says here is like no do you not judge or
you too will be judged like that’s the
first thing he says I mean he talks
about your brothers I think he’s
speaking to people of faith so when you
felt judged as a single mother by the
Christian Church you didn’t walk away
from Jesus what kept you following Jesus
in spite of how his followers the
churches and everything in the church is
full of sinners and hypocrites and
that’s you know that’s what people fail
to realize is the church is not God and
so yeah you might be in a church that is
not doing things correctly or the way
that Jesus would want them because
they’re human and you have to forgive
them too but your relationship with
Jesus is so much more than that so it
doesn’t matter what people of the church
tell you because they have things in
their own life too
it depends it matters what your
relationship with Jesus looks like but
I’ve always understood Jesus to be like
you know love thy neighbor which i think
is great like love thy neighbor and but
but wouldn’t this be wouldn’t an aspect
of love going back to there now if you
have a parent being there’s a time where
you have to make a judgment call right
so I think the temptu the difficulty is
for a Christian to know how do I love my
neighbor when they’re not following the
same set of rules I think a lot of times
when we talk about these stories and
kind of the words of Jesus is
interpreted in a very
absolute way in a very black-and-white
way and I think to the point of
relationships that is fundamentally and
if the the hidden variable and all that
so when I speak to a person that’s
addicted that’s that’s living on the
street or that may be living in a
shelter and they said what man you ain’t
never been in my shoe yeah I append in
your shoes and I was in for a very long
time a period in my life while I was
living on the street I had addictions
you know I’m saying when I when I was
years away from my family you know and
I’ve been in those shoes and when people
heard that you know I’m saying now it’s
like okay what do you have the sights on
me now so as you can see it’s a very
multi-layered and deep conversation and
I think I think ultimately what Jesus is
saying is that when you’re in a
relationship with someone you have to
make judgment calls about what’s best
for them because you love them and
that’s where the tension is but that’s
what I think what about you how do you
respond to what Jesus says about love
that love is judgmental how do you
respond to the conversation I’d love to
hear your thoughts to just leave a
comment below and also I’ve got a
playlist over here of some other
reaction videos you guys go ahead and
take a look at that I’m gonna have
another chalky roll Wade Hart here and
we’ll see you soon
whoo that hurt my teeth oh look this one
starts a conversation it says call me Oh
banana I don’t like the banana

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